ABORTION: Murder or Birth Control
ABORTION: Murder, or Birth Control? Hey, y’all. I’m baaack. Had a guest last week, but I’m here to rant another day. We welcome all comments here, even dissenters. This is the
Roe v. Wade never should’ve passed. It isn’t the job of the Supreme Court to legislate from the Bench. Abortion is an issue each state should decide via voters … us … the people. Yeah, old news. Here’s my twist. We fight for the right of the unborn baby. Has anyone thought about the expectant mother? “But, Kelly, the expectant mother is the one terminating the pregnancy. Since she obviously wants to rid herself of the child, what is there to consider?“ Plenty. Some of the expectant moms are kids themselves, and don’t know what to do. They take the “logical,“ easy way out. Sometimes their parents agree, sometime they don’t. Doesn’t much matter anymore. A parent doesn’t always have the right to discuss their teen’s medical condition with the doctor. When those girls get older and want to start a family, might that unhappy memory they shoved down, resurface?
Has anyone thought of the women who get abortions when they aren’t in the Jesus camp? What happens if they join after the fact? How do ya think they feel about their past actions? Their problem, right? What about all the women who ache to hold a baby, to rock a little one to sleep, yet are unable to conceive? Anyone ever thought that an aborted baby could fill those empty arms? How saddened is a mother with no child? Tough luck, I guess. “But, Kelly, if the choice is taken away, those pregnant gals will seek out the back-alley doctors with dirty coat-hangers!” A “choice” is which of the 31 flavors of ice cream ya wanna order. Only God has the right over life and death. Unrepentant killers are punished. That’s what prisons are for. (Yeah, and Hell too.) In all the examples above, women suffer—at least those with a conscience, those with a heart. Numerous females get abortions without really thinking about the long-term repercussions. Is there any way for such girls/women to recover? Any way to overcome the crippling guilt? My answer is … no. I’ve had two abortions, and I still harbor the horror. I can say I made mistakes. I can tell myself the Lord forgives me, so I should forgive myself. I can spout my anguish through five years of therapy. Forgive myself? Ain’t gonna happen. Ever. When I’m in Heaven, and I haveta stand before God, what the heck can I say in my defense?
I do know I never would’ve gone to a “back-alley” doctor. I never would’ve done something illegal. Gee, Supreme Court, thanks for giving me a choice. I’ll never forget it. Yeah, I just revealed something about myself that damages my reputation. Yeah, I know the Internet is forever. Yeah, I know people are gonna call me a hypocrite. I’ve told y’all, my life is an open book. If I can help one person by layin’ myself bare, I’ll do it. Those who truly love me, still will. If I can live with killing two of my children, I guess I can live with those who think less of me—I’m on their side. So, and ya knew I wasn’t gonna end on that note, what I said above is my opinion. On to politics, as we have an election approaching. Here are the irrefutable facts. Recently, Barack Obama addressed Planned Parenthood (even their name offends me). He stated, “My first act as President will be to sign the Freedom of Choice Act (FOCA) into law.“ Ever heard of it? Let me enlighten you.The ‘Freedom of Choice Act’ pretty much overturns all federal and state limitations on abortion, making partial-birth abortion legal again. It’ll repeal all parental notice laws on abortion, and provide unlimited tax funding of abortions. Who pays taxes? Most of us do. So, you wouldn’t have an abortion, but you’ll pay for someone else’s?What’s also reprehensible is that O-bortion is trying to disguise his liberal, radical views. Truth: He voted four times in the
Yeah, I’m in your face. Yeah, I’m makin’ enemies. Yeah, I’m losin’ friends. Guess what? I betcha Jesus is givin’ me the thumbs up. I think I can survive if He’s my only friend.
K. [No Fear, for God is With Me]
October 21st, 2008 at 15:27
Why would Jesus give you the thumbs up?
Hmm. Well, I guess we need to turn to Scripture to verify….
Thou. Shall. Not. Kill. (Guess you’re ok, Kelly!)
More compelling to me is this: John the Baptist (while in the womb) lept [for joy, is what I want to insert] once in the presence of Jesus for the first time (also while in the womb). That’s pretty revealing to me about LIFE.
You’re an impossibly strong person to open the book of your life, Kelly. I pray no one alters their opinion of you with the knowledge you shared of your past. Well…maybe if that person has never ever ever sinned, then they can hate you.
I agree with you about caring for mothers. While I cannot fathom what it could be like to endure something as dispicable as rape, living with abortion on your hands isn’t any easier. I often think: what if I were the product of rape. I could have been. Does that make me unfit for the chance of life? We, as decent human beings, should empower mothers to heal and preserve God’s greatest gift.
Should this be a BIG topic while considering Prez candidates? As an American…I can see some people saying, “…not as much as other issues.” But as Christians? This issue is near paramount.
Personal opinion.
With love (that’s Jesus love)
Will
October 21st, 2008 at 16:59
wawindom Says:
“Why would Jesus give you the thumbs up?”
Not for what I did, but for standing up against it even though I look like a hypocrite. And for not caring who won’t like me now, because I may help someone. Because I may save a baby if McCain is elected.
wawindom Says:
“Should this be a BIG topic while considering Prez candidates? As an American…I can see some people saying, “…not as much as other issues.” But as Christians? This issue is near paramount.”
Paramount. Exactly. The issue is that Colin Powell has endorsed Obama because (he says) he didn’t wanna see the possibility of two more conservative judges on the Supreme Court.
Guys, we already have Harry Reid and Nancy Pelosi, two ultra-liberals callin’ shots. We give ‘em the White House, and they have all the control if they’re filibuster-proof. That’s why it’s important to me, both as a Christian, and a citizen.
And thanks for the kind words.
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 17:09
Kelly, thank you for sharing.
Kelly says “even though I look like a hypocrite.” We ALL are hypocrites to some extent if you think about it. I spout about having faith, not doubting, not gossiping, etc…but I’m guilty of distrust, doubt, and gossip. But it’s by the saving grace of Jesus that we can stand tall, despite what we’ve done in our past. So, although we, as humans, can’t forget, Jesus can forgive.
Thank you for your boldness, Kelly. Have a great day.
October 21st, 2008 at 17:13
Lynn Rush Says:
“Thank you for your boldness, Kelly.”
Boldness, or stupidity. Haven’t figured it out yet…”
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 18:00
Kelly,
I think the place it comes from is deep inside of you and is called ‘honesty’. You know, you have walked the road. So have I. I think that is what makes us passionate about speaking out about it. You can never go back and undo it. You can be forgiven. But it never goes away and that child never leaves your mind or your heart. And the damaging affects to your person can be life changing too.
As a seventeen year old who was talked into having an abortion because my boyfriend “thought it best” , I was not strong enough to stand up to him or my parents, I was left to face miscarriage after miscarriage in my life and then almost died giving birth. I’m now 47 and have only just now told my beloved husband and told him how at 17 I knew enough to make a little grave and place a little remembrance to that child.
In his loving kindness toward me, he is allowing me to go back to that place and give me closure. I am only just now able to face it. 30 years ago and it has never once left me. We have to be bold. We have to be willing to stand up and say “NO MORE”. This is life and God is the author of life and no one has the right to terminate it.
I keep thinking “Is anyone listening, truly listening to Obama?” He is okay with partial birth abortion. Do you know how heinous that is?
You want ‘change’ people? It’s a slippery slope people when we start determining what life has value and what life doesn’t.
October 21st, 2008 at 18:56
Debra Mercuri Says:
“I keep thinking “Is anyone listening, truly listening to Obama?” He is okay with partial birth abortion. Do you know how heinous that is?
You want ‘change’ people? It’s a slippery slope people when we start determining what life has value and what life doesn’t.”
Debra,
Thanks so much for adding your story to mine. Good to know I’m not alone out there.
You’re correct, Obama is for abortion. I’m mystified some put the economy, hence the dollar, above an innocent baby. Sigh.
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 19:23
Kelly, I wished more people were as honest as you.
Thanks for sharing your heart this week.
I know this is a tough subject. I am a grandmother of an open adoption child. She is precious and going to college now. At the time, we could have never given her what she has been able to learn and grow with. She needed to be in a home where there was support for her needs. She was a preemie with a father that was was on every drug you can think of. Our medical world still didn’t know the repercussions at that time. Our daughter was drug free but so young and impressionable, and still needed to graduate HS.
WARNING to All! This father was wealthy,clean cut, had manners,and fooled everyone. I had a check mark about his strong hold on Jennifer, but it was slight and I should have listened to my heart a little more carefully. No one had a clue that this was a problem, even his parents. He did not fit the clues that a drugged person usually displays.
The adoptive parents are absolutely the cats meow. She has a degree in Special needs so knew what to look for if our precious baby needed help. She wasn’t affected, praise the Lord.
This wonderful couple could not have children and did everything in their power, financially and everything else to conceive. They had just given up when we found them through a mutual friend at church. We are all so happy that our precious daughter chose this route.
Thanks for letting me share this. It helps me too. I still deal with some guilt, I was young enough to raise another, but I was on the road with my work full time and it was hard not to be home at such a crucial time in our daughter’s life. Sigh, I wish I could start all over sometimes, but then I wouldn’t have Heather either and neither would her parents who were desperately praying for a child to hold,raise, and love.
Hugs to all, Paulette Harris
October 21st, 2008 at 20:40
In Christ there is forgivenes. If He can forgive you, you should be able to find the peace to forgive yourself.
I commend you for your openess. I hope that others can hear your testimony, and it covinces them to abandon all thoughts of abortion.
Back in my twenties, I had friend that I tried to talk of having an abortion. We stayed up late the night before the procedure talking. Nothing that I could say, could break through her fear of how she would support the child, the social stigma, the inconvenience to her plan, or how alone she would be. I couldn’t change her mind.
Every so often, I wonder whether there was something more I could have said or done that could have saved that life. I realize now that when someone has it in their head to do something, it’s near impossible to change their minds.
Voting for conservatives haven’t reduced abortions unilaterally in the US. In fact, from 1974 to 2004*, the number of abortions for 20 and 30 year old’s have increased, even though we have had some of the most conservative icons serving like Reagan and George Bush (the elder).
Until, everyone is willing to place value on all human life, these statistics won’t change, and I’m tired of being used to elect folks, who forget their Christian values once elected to high office. I haven’t seen the Christian agenda advance when I focus on social issues instead of the economy.
We can’t teach life in the schools.
We haven’t seen politicians lead lives which inspire lives of faith.
I think it is unrealistic to expect this calling of politicians today, so I’ll vote for things they can affect like taxes and infrastructure.
Regards,
Vanessa
*Times Magazine - Sept. 23, 2008.
October 21st, 2008 at 20:52
Kelly,
Thank you for being transparent. It takes courage to open your life like that. I applaud you for it.
And way to go on the rant.
By the way, I loved ya before I read this and I still love ya! But you already knew that.
Hugs,
Pammer
October 21st, 2008 at 20:57
Aw, shucks. Thanks, Pammer.
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 21:09
Kelly ~ What a wonderful, truth-baring post. I’m praying now about how to share it with two people whom I love dearly who’ve had abortions. And, both are Obama supporters, and Christians! Please pray for courage for me, and for God’s will in this challenge. Bonnie
October 21st, 2008 at 22:31
We say that only God has the right to decide the question of life and death but clearly we do not believe this. Who among us would turn down life-saving medical treatment following an accident or an illness that would end our life otherwise? Why do we fight against the inevitable with extremely ill and ederly patients putting them through procedure after procedure–often painful procedures–when if left to God they would simply die? We more properly should provide comfort measures and allow them to go as quietly and peacefully as surely God intended but we don’t do that. Why do we save, or attempt to save premies who were born early (as evidently God intended and intended that they would not survive) when our efforts result in a child destined for untold numbers of surgeries and often a life of pain, deformity and sometimes unbearable mental anguish?
To me, the evidence is fact: We humans, with our medical advancements, very often determine the question of life or death.
So where is the line to be drawn? Personally, I have no problem with VERY EARLY abortion.
I do have a problem with anti-abortion/anti-birth control advocates who see children born to mothers who cannot possibly properly care for them, who see thousands of children living in foster care, who support fertilization resulting in multiple births of 2, 3, 4, 5 & even 6 infants in one fell swoop.
My feeling is that if you choose to oppose abortion–making an issue of this one particular area where we humans should not intrude while taking full advantage of other medicals miracles–then put your money where your mouth is: Adopt as many unwanted children as you can possibly support and care for.
October 21st, 2008 at 23:08
Night Owl,
Thanks for joining in with an opposing view. Your bravery is noted and appreciated.
Night Owl Says:
“We say that only God has the right to decide the question of life and death but clearly we do not believe this.”
K. Says: Can’t use “we” so loosely. YOU clearly might not believe it, but I do. We often take that right from Him, and suffer the consequences.
Night Owl Says:
“To me, the evidence is fact: We humans, with our medical advancements, very often determine the question of life or death. Who among us would turn down life-saving medical treatment following an accident or an illness that would end our life otherwise?”
K. Says: Only if we refuse the medical treatment do we determine if we live. Taking medical treatment doesn’t mean we determine if we live, only that we WISH to live.
Night Owl Says:
“Why do we fight against the inevitable with extremely ill and elderly patients putting them through procedure after procedure–often painful procedures–when if left to God they would simply die?”
K. Says: If they choose that path, they have freewill. You can’t tell an elderly person they have no right to fight for their life. If they left no instructions and can’t communicate, loved-ones must do what they think the person would want, as they know the person best. Don’t see how that correlates.
Night Owl Says:
“Why do we save, or attempt to save premies who were born early (as evidently God intended and intended that they would not survive) when our efforts result in a child destined for untold numbers of surgeries and often a life of pain, deformity and sometimes unbearable mental anguish?”
K. Says: I differ completely here. God DOES NOT intend for premies to die or to suffer. Disease comes from Satan, not from God. This “It’s God’s will” -thing is NOT Biblical.
If you’re a parent, what do you want for your kids? To lead a happy lives? Marry well? Have fulfilling and successful careers? Be saved? Or, do you wish them illness, divorce, strife, poverty, and unending sadness?
Our Father in Heaven loves us more than our earthly parents do. Who, when their child asks him for bread, would give the child a stone? Gods wants to grant us the desires of our heart. He wants us to prosper more than our earthly parents do. He also gives us the rope of freewill. Unfortunately, some of us hang ourselves with it.
Night Owl Says:
“I do have a problem with anti-abortion/anti-birth control advocates who see children born to mothers who cannot possibly properly care for them…”
K. Says: I agree wholeheartedly. That’s what adoption is for.
Night Owl Says:
“My feeling is that if you choose to oppose abortion–making an issue of this one particular area where we humans should not intrude while taking full advantage of other medicals miracles–then put your money where your mouth is: Adopt as many unwanted children as you can possibly support and care for.”
K. Says: Again, I don’t see a correlation between abortion and receiving medical care. In opposing abortion, we should intrude, as we’re protecting a child that can’t protect himself/herself. God knows what you’re going to say, be, and look like before you’re born. Very Early.
We can’t intrude on a person’s right to take or refuse medical treatment. They can speak for themselves. If they can’t, we hope they told someone their wishes.
Finally, a lot of people do adopt children. Since two of my three grandchildren have been given to parents who couldn’t conceive, I know firsthand the joy on their faces. Most kids in foster care have parents who didn’t give them up for adoption, so they go into the system, which hopes to reunite them with their birth parents. The only babies not adopted are (1) disabled, and thus harder to place, but some are placed and (2) those whose mothers don’t release them. Any healthy baby has hundreds of families clamoring to adopt them. I chose one such set of parents, and was saddened at the many who didn’t get the baby.
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 23:10
bengstrom Says:
“Please pray for courage for me, and for God’s will in this challenge.”
K. Says: I claim victory for you in the name above all names, Jesus, my Savior. Amen.
October 21st, 2008 at 23:27
Hi Vanessa,
Thanks for stepping forward and showing your bravery!
Vanessa Says:
“Until, everyone is willing to place value on all human life, these statistics won’t change, and I’m tired of being used to elect folks, who forget their Christian values once elected to high office.”
K. Says: Why is it people think the president is in charge of everything? We have a legislative branch of government. By the way, the democrats, who are liberal, control it. Do you honestly think Reagan or Bush secretly wanted abortions to rise? C’mon!
Yep, we have liberals who wanna allow abortions, etc. If Obama is in office, there won’t be a veto on the Freedom of Choice Act, which will throw out what few restraints conservatives were able to get passed. The Supreme Court was overreaching in Roe v. Wade. The next president may be choosing two judges. Who do ya think Obama’s gonna put up there as candidates? Think abortion is the only thing they’ll be liberal about? C’mon!
Vanessa Says:
“We can’t teach life in the schools. We haven’t seen politicians lead lives which inspire lives of faith. I think it is unrealistic to expect this calling of politicians today, so I’ll vote for things they can affect like taxes and infrastructure.
K Says: Great, then you’re voting for McCain if you know anything about finance and economics. Obama is going to raise taxes. He’s got a 100% liberal rating. Liberals think the government is responsible for everyone. More programs; higher taxes. This election is crucial to more than abortion, and trust me, the economy will get worse under Obama. Under McCain, we would get to teach creation in schools, as he’s for competition via vouchers. Of course, if the liberals block it, you can’t blame it on the president.
As to the economy, one can’t give tax credits to those who don’t pay taxes (which is welfare), then tax small businesses that create 16 million jobs, and expect the economy to get better. Am I the only one who took economics here? Does anyone understand the “Trickle-Down Theory?” Sorry, gettin’ off track, but I’m beatin’ my head against the wall here. I’ll be going over the issue of economics later this week, if anyone wants the facts, along with my opinions
K.
October 21st, 2008 at 23:34
Oh Boy! Ask all the preemies that survive. Like I mentioned earlier….Heather survived as a matter of fact so did my daughter who was a preemie. I forgot, so did my little almost 3 year old grandson. He was tiny just a little over two pounds. But…they had no heroic means of help. Just God and they were put into isolates for a little extra warmth. It was God giving life to his children. I am sorry I am really a stickler for this type of thinking. I know people make bad judgment calls and mistakes everyday, but we do in all areas of life and we learn the hard way not to do the same thing again. We don’t just pat each other’s heads and tell them that is fine that we all make mistakes. Yes, we do, me too. But that doesn’t make it alright. It is part of life and we go on. I believe in mercy and grace but some take it too far and we keep repeating ourselves.
Its’ dangerous to think that God is the Author and finisher of life when He has given us the tools to save someone. It is unthinkable to me that God made a preemie to be born and die if left alone when all that the child may need would have been a warm blanket.
We have to learn responsibility in this country and that doesn’t seem to me to kill babies and euthanize adults who are no longer productive in someone’s viewpoint.
I’ve heard this arguments before. It isn’t any different than the old testament. Humans love power over others. These all seem to make sense until you line them up against the Word of God.
Praying for you too B.
Love,
Paulette
October 21st, 2008 at 23:36
By the way Kelly, you sure know how to pick rants!
P
October 22nd, 2008 at 03:39
I think we all live with the “choices” we make. Some are horrifying, such as abortions, but done before we knew Christ???? As far as the East is from the West in God’s eyes. Not so easy to forget or forgive in our own–but it shapes us and prepares us to be compassionate towards flawed people. It reminds us how far we fell and how Jesus reaches down and pulls us up and out. I think back to my life before I was saved and I don’t even recognize that girl…but it makes me appreciate every day that I was changed and that I can make better choices based in absolute morality now. I may not have children but I am still a child of the King and so are you Kelly!
October 22nd, 2008 at 04:20
This was sent via e-mail, and I was given permission to post it…
Hiya Kelly,
Your blog was pretty sharp today. Nicely done. Do yourself a favor and allow your heart to feel the forgiveness that is granted you. The abortions are history and you obviously learned a wicked lesson AND you utilize (the previous two words sound funny when pronounced out loud, eh?) the lesson to help others.
This election has me concerned as well. I’m pasting a letter below that I sent to one of the candidates. My concerns aren’t about which of them is elected, but moreso the simple fact that the media is the sole source of information for the majority of younger people. The younger people today want change, but they don’t know what they want changed.
Loved your blog.
Tom Rivera
Dear Sir;
I’m a retired Navy Chief and come from a family with nearly 100 years of military service in three very short generations. We
still serve today. Our blood lies on the streets of Fallujah (my nephew) and my son has defended that very ground a few weeks
later. (Battle of Fallujah, USMC 3/25–Brandon Stokley and Matthew Rivera were once childhood playmates.) My other
nephew served a tour in Afghanistan and Irag. Another nephew is a USMC commissioned officer and two more children will
probably join in the next year.
I’m writing because you’re doing it WRONG.
I started work one week ago, after six months of unemployment here in South Carolina where the unemployment is over 8 percent. I work for a Temp agency and with people whose age range from 22-49. (I’m the 49-year-old.)
A SHORT and passionate discussion of politics arose along the production line that I supervise and I quickly discovered that the NON-military people (voting age) HAVE NO CLUE about DEFENSE and it’s necessity. They simply want a change. The 22-year-old doesn’t remember the first Iraq war and couldn’t tell me what countries our military is deployed in. None of them realize that Clinton refused to incarcerate Bin Ladin. They’re all going to vote for Obama just to find something different! They haven’t READ, or LEARNED anything about the past 30 years of our history. The only thing they KNOW is that life was better when they were younger! (Their parents were pretty good in the Clinton era but they didn’t teach them about INFORMED decisions.) I tried to convey that a president is NOT a LAW-MAKER and to put the blame for their misfortune where it belongs—the congress and senate. If they want things to CHANGE, they should learn the DIFFERENCE between GOOD, BAD, RIGHT, and WRONG. I told them ACTIONS (Mr. McCain)are verifiable and WORDS (Obama) are just advertisement. (I used a more colorful word than ‘advertisement’.) I ASKED THEM… “How would your life be different if Clinton had incarcerated Bin Ladin?” Would there have been a 9-11? Would New York’s skyline be different? Would we be at war today? Would the economy be in this condition? Would you be working for a temp-agency? Would you be able to AFFORD the gas that brought you to work this morning? I FINISHED with… “If you don’t know HOW to make changes, then do me a favor and DON’T VOTE.”
To summarize… Don’t attack Obama’s character. SHOW your HISTORY. How OLD was Obama during the first IRAQ war, Vietnam War? Show them a picture or video of a kid sitting in a classroom or playing a video game (Obama) while Mr. McCain was battling the idiots in the Senate and ACTUALLY MAKING CHANGES!
SHOW them the democratic liberals who’ve controlled the Congress and Senate for the last two years and the results they’ve achieved.
October 22nd, 2008 at 11:51
Thank you, Kelly. From all of my family.
Tom Rivera
Korean Conflict-one representative of our country from my family. (Father)
Desert Shield, Desert Storm-six representatives. (Myself, brother, and maternal cousins.)
Iraq/Afghanistan-four representatives and more on the way. (Son, and nephews. One deceased.)
October 22nd, 2008 at 16:29
Kelly,
I’m a Canadian and we’ve been watching your election very closely. My dh is in the Air Force and so we would actively support McCain if we could vote, even if it was just due to his 5 yrs as a POW in Japan. (I believe it was Japan, correct me if I’m wrong.)
Back to your original topic: my best friend in high school went to the States to have a 4 month abortion. SHe’s never gotten over it. She went on the marry the father of that child, and they now have four living children. Still, she’s never gotten over it. When I was working in corrections and supervising staff I had a 20 yr old staffer who wanted to get an abortion. I tried to talk her out of it (I’m a Christian) but our ultimate supervisor talked her in to it. I felt so helpless as I watched that girl sink in to depression and end up quitting her job with us.
I can’t have children and my dh and I adopted a boy and a girl with Down Syndrome when they were both babies. THey were certainly unwanted by their parents. But the ugly fact is true - most unfit parents won’t give up their children for adoption but let them languish in foster care, being moved hither and yon and having irreparable damage done to them. Personally, I’d like to see a law where if a parent can’t get cleaned up and at least sober and on welfare within 3 yrs., they don’t get their children back and they’re up for adoption. It’s because adoption laws are so strict in North America that people pay extraordinary amounts to do foreign adoptions. (we were told it would be at least $25,000 to adopt a child from Romania, and that was back in 1989). I suspect alot of foreign “adoptions” are nothing more than baby-buying, but that’s a personal opinion.
Lastly, I’ll say that I had a miscarriage during my first marriage. Since I’ve been saved I’ve read many books on heaven and children. I’m reassured I’ll see that child in heaven, along with my two children who will become perfect (although I already believe they’re perfect!) in their perfect bodies in heaven.
God loves children and I’ve personally seen a 1.5 lb baby survive in our church and grow up to be a beautiful, healthy, young woman with no problems. If God can “save” such a tiny one, then how can we do any different?
And I agree with your reader who said what you did before you were saved is like the “East from the West”. You’ve paid your price, Kelly, and on those “anniversaries”, if you think of them that way, try to think of those children in heaven with their loving Father. Forgive yourself, and continue to advocate for the women who make such choices and then live with years of regret, grief (there’s a lot of grief after a miscarriage, I can tell you), and guilt.
Thank you for sharing and giving us all a chance to pray for you, and for the issues in your country.
October 22nd, 2008 at 16:54
Gotta get one thing straight, then I’ll put this to rest. I grew up in a church my family built. My grandfather was a Pentecostal minister. I knew what I was doing was wrong from the get-go.
I had a time of rebellion. A long time. A dark time. You might hear more about it if I sell the book, and they want more than my “funny stuff.”
I had no excuse, and although y’all mean well, every person on Earth can tell me I’m forgiven, but in my heart, it won’t make it so. That’s the kind of damage abortion does. My dead children are in heaven and aren’t suffering, but until I get there, I will be.
I’m about positive thinking and fightin’ your way thru stuff, but this is one hurdle I haven’t been able to overcome, and I’m a tough broad. Think about that when y’all vote for Obama, ’cause you’ll be decreasing the population of babies, and increasing the population of dysfunctional, guilt-ridden girls and women.
K.
October 22nd, 2008 at 17:09
Hi Kelly,
You’re a brave soul and I still love you. Great blog on O-bortion. My sentiments exactly. I’m praying about this election. Obama really scares me.
Shannon Vannatter
October 22nd, 2008 at 22:13
I have said a prayer of freedom for you Kelly. As prayer warriors, Jim and I are lifting you up to Jesus. You are his beloved and he doesn’t want you to walk in guilt any longer. I know sounds too simple, I had to deal with some issues about guilt but won’t go into it. Suffice to say, all things are possible and he loves his Kelly no matter what. He already knew that she would rebel and be a brat. He made her in His image and loves her just the same as if she hadn’t done anything wrong in her life.
We will continue until told differently. We lift everyone up who reads this and have to deal with the horrible guilt that the enemy places upon us.
Bless each reader Father in the Name of Jesus Christ.
October 23rd, 2008 at 05:18
Kelly, thank you for opening your heart and sharing. This subject is “my thing.” I have been a pro-lifer all along and will never, ever vote for a pro-choice presidential candidate. Even if I disagree with the rest of his policies. I believe God holds the life he creates more precious than the economy. We have to do the best we can and vote for the candidate with the right values. God is sovereign. He will see that the one he has ordained will win. Whomever that may be. This was evident with President Bush. The odds were really stacked against him, but he won. Twice! That just had to be the hand of God. I’ve written an article about this very thing that will go up on my website November 1st.
Anyway, I love ya, Kelly, all the more for putting yourself out there, being honest. I so admire you for that. And as so many others have said here, God has forgiven you, and loves you. I know you say you struggle with forgiving yourself, but maybe it will help to remember that you were created in His own image. If you see HIM when you look at yourself, you couldn’t not forgive HIM, could you?
Love,
Debbie
October 23rd, 2008 at 15:01
svannatter Says:
“Obama really scares me.”
K. Says: More than my unruly curls on a bad hair day…”
November 23rd, 2009 at 21:03
I’m going to be honest and admit that I haven’t read a word. This is my one off day to do a gazillion things. But the topic caught my eye. Here’s my personal philosophy:
Until getting pregnant can have the same negative effect on males in terms of ruining their lives and futures and plans and dreams, I’m for limited abortion. While the egg and sperm are a zygote (a mass of dividing cells) or an embryo (a mass where you can’t tell whether it’s a fish, a bird, a horse, or a human as all embryos look alike at this stage of the pregnancy)…I believe there is nothing wrong with abortion. Of course, this is a very small window of time. When it turns into a fetus and now looks human….nope, too late. It is a human baby then and “ya had plenty of time to know you were pregnant and didn’t want to have a baby”….now it’s no longer your choice….the baby counts as a human because it now has human characteristics. The Bible says the soul enters the body when the first breath is taken. But I believe in saving a human life before it has a soul but when it could be “anything”…in its embryo form….I am comfortable in aborting it.